Tragedy and unforeseen life events affect us all. Please share the single best piece of advice you have given or received that helped you or someone you love go from Grief to Gladness.
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CHALLENGE OF THE WEEK: From Grief to Gladness
Everyone grieves differently. There is no time limit on grief so don’t allow anyone to make you feel like you should be over it. When comforting others don’t say things like “be strong”, ” I know how you feel” (even if you have lost someone ) it’s still not the same because everyone’s pain is different. The best you can do is to give the person a hug or just listen to them.
The best advice I have received in this grieving journey is that my grief is my own and no one else’s. The only way to get through it is to feel it.
I lost my father almost a year ago. It was a short battle with cancer. For months I beat myself up for all the things I didn’t say and should have. Was my dad proud of me, and was I a good daughter. My best advice is grieve. Let it take as long as it needs to. There is no set timeline, and you will never “get over” it. You just learn to live your life differently. There are days that for no reason at all I still will just cry, and others I find things that I know would’ve made my dad laugh, and I laugh too.
I think the best advice when I was grieving was to accept that I was grieving and not try to get over it or rush past it, but to let it take it’s own time. Knowing I didn’t have a time frame that I was expected to “be ok” in helped me to relax and let the emotions process themselves.
Every day you live your life know that your loved one is watching over you and isn’t missing anything that is happening
There is no stages. It’s been 9 weeks. I’m angered and i feel guilty. I’m also extremely anxious. Anxious to sleep. Anxious I’m gonna get a visit from the beyond. The tightness has left my chest but the disbelief remains. Anyone who tries to tell you that there are 5 stages is a lie. And has never had their mom die in front of them
My best advice after losing my husband is to give yourself permission to grieve. Even years after the loss the wave of grief washes over me but I allow it and I allow the tears and after it passes I feel at peace.
One of the best piece of advice i received related to grief was the 23rd psalms. Where it talks about walking through the valley of the shadow of death. Its the walking through part that really struck a cord in my heart. Because it can be so easy to get stuck and lost in your heart. In your heartbreak of longing just to smell that persons scent.
Its one of the scriptures that really help me work through the loss of my daddy.
May God be with all the people experiencing loss especially the people in Las Vegas. May God wrap his comforting arms around them and may they hold onto him even in the midst, even in going through the valley of the shadow of death. I pray Gods grace and mercy on our country.
Feel the pain! Get in there and become one with it, think about all aspects of the person or act, the good and the bad. Have a physical release for the pain, it can be crying, screaming, workout, etc. Then let it go for a day, don’t think about it at all, when your mind goes to it think of something that fills you with love and warmth. Don’t spend each and everyday deep in the sadness, give yourself permission to be happy. If happiness feels impossible, start with one minute, then build on it each day.
Life is like a canvas. It needs black and white, and also colors. Sometimes things can take time to change, sometimes you can feel a little bit uncomfortable with changing too, but you need to realize that you and only you can decide what to do, if you want to feel better you and only you can decide to do the change. Every single scar will heal, things will get better if you just let them be. To heal you better accept your sorrows and let them fade away. To heal you better believe that it’s possible, cuz what’s possible is just what you decide to believe.
My best advice after losing my husband is to give yourself permission to grieve. Even years after the loss the wave of grief washes over me but I allow it and I allow the tears and after it passes I feel at peace.
One of the best piece of advice i received related to grief was the 23rd psalms. Where it talks about walking through the valley of the shadow of death. Its the walking through part that really struck a cord in my heart. Because it can be so easy to get stuck and lost in your heart. In your heartbreak of longing just to smell that persons scent.
Its one of the scriptures that really help me work through the loss of my daddy.
May God be with all the people experiencing loss especially the people in Las Vegas. May God wrap his comforting arms around them and may they hold onto him even in the midst, even in going through the valley of the shadow of death. I pray Gods grace and mercy on our country.
Feel the pain! Get in there and become one with it, think about all aspects of the person or act, the good and the bad. Have a physical release for the pain, it can be crying, screaming, workout, etc. Then let it go for a day, don’t think about it at all, when your mind goes to it think of something that fills you with love and warmth. Don’t spend each and everyday deep in the sadness, give yourself permission to be happy. If happiness feels impossible, start with one minute, then build on it each day.
Life is like a canvas. It needs black and white, and also colors. Sometimes things can take time to change, sometimes you can feel a little bit uncomfortable with changing too, but you need to realize that you and only you can decide what to do, if you want to feel better you and only you can decide to do the change. Every single scar will heal, things will get better if you just let them be. To heal you better accept your sorrows and let them fade away. To heal you better believe that it’s possible, cuz what’s possible is just what you decide to believe.
I lost my father almost a year ago. It was a short battle with cancer. For months I beat myself up for all the things I didn’t say and should have. Was my dad proud of me, and was I a good daughter. My best advice is grieve. Let it take as long as it needs to. There is no set timeline, and you will never “get over” it. You just learn to live your life differently. There are days that for no reason at all I still will just cry, and others I find things that I know would’ve made my dad laugh, and I laugh too.
I think the best advice when I was grieving was to accept that I was grieving and not try to get over it or rush past it, but to let it take it’s own time. Knowing I didn’t have a time frame that I was expected to “be ok” in helped me to relax and let the emotions process themselves.
The best advice I have received in this grieving journey is that my grief is my own and no one else’s. The only way to get through it is to feel it.
Everyone grieves differently. There is no time limit on grief so don’t allow anyone to make you feel like you should be over it. When comforting others don’t say things like “be strong”, ” I know how you feel” (even if you have lost someone ) it’s still not the same because everyone’s pain is different. The best you can do is to give the person a hug or just listen to them.
Every day you live your life know that your loved one is watching over you and isn’t missing anything that is happening
There is no stages. It’s been 9 weeks. I’m angered and i feel guilty. I’m also extremely anxious. Anxious to sleep. Anxious I’m gonna get a visit from the beyond. The tightness has left my chest but the disbelief remains. Anyone who tries to tell you that there are 5 stages is a lie. And has never had their mom die in front of them