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Day 10 – GROWING
Gain a healthier perspective of your world by reflecting on how both the good and bad have shaped you into the unique, beautiful self you are today.
I would not be as empathetic toward others had I not endured suffering. If life were easy for me, I would not be as sensitive towards the needs of others. I am able to be attentive and help others because of painful experiences and past mistakes.
Throughout my life I took on the role of caregiver. I went from being the youngest in my extended family (I was an only child) and as such my family never but much faith or respect for what I thought or knew. Even working for a doctor for many years, having a degree, it didn’t matter. I was the youngest. Years later, I became the caregiver to my husband, my moms sisters, their husbands, and while my dad took care of my mom, as an only child I cared for her as well. When my mom passed, my dad came to live with my husband, my sons, and I. After 35 years in our house, a house we loved, we moved to make room so my dad could have his own room. Within a few months my husband became sick and passed away. My sons were on their own, one came back to help me with my dad, and this year, a little over a year after losing my husband my dad passed at 93. Through all this, the loss of so many people within a short time, I learned to be compassionate, understanding, caring, loving, and now, I am learning how to live. What it is like to put myself first, to live alone when I need to, to maintain a home purchased for a family. I am learning to realize how important my role was in other peoples lives and now how important my choices are in mine.
when i was young, i was forced onto a very hard drug, looking back i am 8 years clean and had an experience where i had several ppl ask e to partake in that drug, and i REFUSED! ๐ i felt like it wasnt that important like it used to be when i was hooked. i am so grateful i do not do it anymore. ๐
i am still learning and still growing from my hardships. They have definitely made me a strong person, who is ambitious, resilient and has also given me multiple opportunities to look inward and grow on a soul level
I’m definitely still healing from hardships and learning from my experiences. One major way that I have grown is I have learned that boundaries are important – you just need to have window for when and where and what kind. That’s what I’m working on currently.
When I think about the obstacles there has been many. I have not lived a fairy tale life, that’s for sure.
I feel that prior to today, when my husband deployed to Iraq w was the hardest experience of my life.
Then today happened. my husband and I have a beautiful 26 year old daughter. She is drop dead beautiful. Not just saying so because she is my daughter,,, she’s beautiful inside and out. She wants to follow in my husband’s foot prints and be a counterintelligence agent. She joined in the army almost 2 years ago. She is currently a M.P. and working her self up to become a C.A.
My daughter set her own journey and had a son when she was 20. From that decision some fear and hardships have occurred for her. Being a single, full time military mom is hard and has its trials. Long story short, I got a call today from her commander and they admitted my daughter into the psych unit at a near bye hospital.
Being a wife of a combat soldier I have seen a lot of p.t.s.d. in our soldiers who return from deployment. To think my child is suffering so much depression and sadness to not want to be here anymore is devastating and painful. I have her little boy while she is taking care of herself in hospital, and I am grateful she trust me enough to keep him.
I feel the growth I will experience is a closer relationship to God. I reach out to him first and pray he gives me strength to carry through.
I will become closer to my daughter and has more compassion and love for her. I knew something was not right the last couple times we talked. I told her she seems sad. I will trust myself and listen more when I sense something.
Looking at it this way I can see that with the loss of my first child I gained a wonderful new perspective on life and the miracle of children. With both of my sons getting several special needs diagnosis I became someone I am much prouder to be – less shallow and superficial to more grounded and caring. They have helped me see exactly how much I am capable of. With the abandonment of my husband I learned forgiveness in a big way and with the separation and divorce I have been blessed with the opportunity for self-discovery, self-love and the potential for a brilliant next chapter in life!
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience. I canโt begin to understand what it feels like to loose a child. Iโm sorry you went through that traumatic experience. The strength you carry with you on a daily basis has to be enormous. I could not do it. Itโs woman like you that inspire me to push forward and stay positive through this journey. Thank you. Darci.
They’ve helped form who I am. They created a need to really love and take care of myself, let certain things go and really truly listen. Once I got to the point of learning and growing from them, everything shifted.
wow indeed ebin , this will have me thinking all day ,if not all the week ahead . before I went through the hardships I was shy , had no voice and in a way I felt tiny in a big world . with each hardship , my awful childhood learnt me to trust no one on face value , trust has to be earned , it has taught me to fight for the vulnerable people in my life , my violent marriage has taught me many things , the main thing is I have a deep faith that will never leave me , my faith keeps me going in the dark moments . Dark moments are not forever , they define me and with each tough time I grow stronger . that inner fire inside me gets stronger , it might rain , there might be storms but the sun will eventually shine again .
Wow this was more like a mega challenge than a micro challenge, but sooooo good! Hardships are responsible for all of my landmark strengths I have developed. Each strength is directly tied to a “huge” hardship in my life. Seeing it this way brings new meaning to “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”!!!
my motto exactly ,
Or what comes to my mind is, no pain, no gain. Pain is the stepping stone for growth….