I AM UNASHAMED

Day 8 – UNASHAMED

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Today, let's nurture our seeds of self-love by fully embracing who are at the core and letting go of who we are not.

19 thoughts on “Day 8 – UNASHAMED”

  1. A quote from a previous week has really stuck with me for when it comes to treating myself better and that is “You’ve been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens” – Louise L. Hays. I’ve been repeating this to myself whenever I start having negative thoughts about myself. For about a year now, I’ve tried especially hard to try to see possible underlying issues behind behaviors. At my core I want to see the best in everyone and can get taken advantage of easily. I’ve had so many people say “As you get older, you’ll be less kind in your thoughts of others”. AKA become bitter. I decided I do not want that and it is not who I am at the core. Instead, to protect myself and set boundaries, I try to identify possible reasons a person is behaving in some way that might be uncomfortable. It’s very likely that from just my “ladder of inference” I won’t be able to fully understand but it helps me keep an open mind and remain understanding while at the same time, setting boundaries that I truly need to set. I’ve always been terrible at saying “no” or anything that I felt would disappoint people. I’m getting better at it and better at not feeling shame when I need to say no.

  3. I end up isolating myself and sabotaging relationships before it can be done to me.

    My next steps are to accept me and be proud of me and bot change for others and to stop numbing my vulnerability and accept it.

    • This resonates with me. Fear of rejection for being my imperfect self. Push them away rather than take the risk of being vulnerable and judged as unworthy and unlovable. I feel that more self compassion and self acceptance will build my courage in allowing others to see all of me and being kind to myself if who I am is not what they can accept.

  4. I start to feel more down and depressed and withdrawn. When mistakes are made and bad things happen I can tell myself that it can be a learning experience or that better things can come out of bad situations.

  8. Shame is a socially constructed emotion which serves no healthy purpose, and was invented as a means of controlling the population, partly by self and peer-regulation.

    I treat myself like my own best friend, supportive, loving, kind. I have never felt the need to prove myself or impress others or wear a mask.

  9. When I fall short, or lack “Traditionally” male skills (Plumbing, auto-mechanics, electrical engineering, etc) or lose a game/competition, I automatically fall back on my step-dad’s scoldings and the “litany” begins. I’m “Stupid” or “Weak”, or, “Not a real man”
    That I must not be trying hard enough, or that I’m just too dumb to deserve to exist, and that I should have been aborted. (not always in that order)

    I’m learning to catch myself when the litany starts up, and remember that the shaming came from a fifth a day alcoholic that tried to kill me on a weekly basis. I also accept the physical, and medical fact that there was NO way I could have defended myself from a skilled fighter three times my size.

    I know that, as a result of the abuses and traumas of my childhood that potentially, I am a monster, we all are, no shame in that, I embrace it, and by doing so gain control over it.

  10. It’s so true (atleast for me), that you are your own worse enemy. I am so quick to judge myself when I don’t live up to my own expectations. It’s kind of sad how often this happens. I have realised recently that “failure” can be beautiful. And what I need to make a point of doing every single day is embracing everything. So if I wake up in the morning cranky.. it’s OK. If I’m in a bad mood.. It’s OK. When I get mad/annoyed with myself for not always being “positive” it leads no where. I need to embrace exactly where I’m at always… and know I’m headed exactly where I’m meant to be… as long as I take a moment to breathe and focus

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