Cultural conditioning, the media, and even most therapies and self-improvement programs operate on the assumption that there is something to fix … that you are not enough the way you are.
Bring to mind recent negative self-talk that goes on in your mind. How much of it was your original idea?
… really take some time to reflect on this …
Your brain has likely been playing and replaying the tape on why you aren't enough in your head for years or even decades now.
Did you wake up at the age of 2 with a spontaneously thought that you weren't smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough?
Whose idea was it originally that you are not good enough the way you are? (Hint: I am going to bet, it didn't come from you.)
After all, when you were a young child, your capacity to experience love, presence, and joy wasn't dependent on achieving goals. You didn't learn to talk in order to look smart, you did it because you noticed a better way to communicate. You didn't care about how foolish you would look when you fell down for the umpteenth time trying to walk, you got back up again because it seems like a faster way to get where you wanted to go.
What something you've been told you need to fix about yourself that goes against who you are at the core?