One of the most significant sources of struggle and dissatisfaction in our relationships comes from our inability to accept people for who they are. We spend a lot of time and energy wishing others would change. This unproductive habit ends up causing us a lot of stress. If we want to be peaceful in our relationships, we must let go of the need to change or control others. We can do this by accepting and loving them as they are – including their faults and shortcomings.
To develop more peace and acceptance in your life today, pick a person with whom you have a very close, yet challenging relationship. Think about that person for a few moments, and make a list of what you appreciate about him or her or are grateful for him or her. Write at least ten items on the list. This shift of focus will facilitate more acceptance from your side.