What does it mean to feel that you are enough? Does this have anything to do with appearance, age, money, achievements, or race? Or is it simply a personal measure of self-esteem and confidence? In my perspective, feeling that you are ‘enough’ is to feel that you are full of love: love to give and love to receive. In the meditation video below, I’ll show you a simple practice to help you let go of negative self-judgments and experience the endless joy of pure love in your heart.
Feeling “not good enough” is a doubt that plagues most people on some level in their lives. Doubting that you are “enough” can affect your love life, career, health, and personal well-being.
Psychologists say that feeling not good enough comes from childhood wounds where we learn dysfunctional patterns and perspectives from our family. (1) We may have been criticized once for getting a bad grade on a test, but instead of letting that go, we have internalized it into a belief that we are simply not smart enough, not good enough… not enough. Or if we were rejected by a schoolmate that we asked out to the dance, we might believe that we are generally not good enough instead of considering the many other people who may love to be our date, if only we would ask.
While uncovering these childhood wounds and healing them through therapy can take a lot of time, energy, and money, there is a simple way to quickly boost your “enoughness” meter, even if doubts and judgments of yourself persist. (2)
The first part of this practice is recognizing that your thoughts and beliefs are only real in your mind. Even though they could be based on real-life experiences, they are fickle, malleable, and made of “mindstuff,” which is yours to choose and change anytime. These self-doubts hold a lot less weight when we realize that they are more flimsy than air. They are ether, and we have the power to decide what kind of ether floats around in our minds.
The second part of this practice is recognizing that self-love is the key to feeling like you are “enough.” Love is a force more powerful than doubt or fear. Love fills in all the gaps of self-criticism and judgment. Love answers questions that cannot be answered. (3) Where else can you find self-love but in the infinite energy space of your own heart?
In the meditation video above, I’ll show you this simple practice of clearing your mind of critical thoughts and tapping back into the loving energy of your heart. After practicing this a few times, you’ll surely feel the “enoughness” rising within you.
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