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Day 22 – PLEASANT
Today, letโs bring a quality of well being to ourselves and everyone around us.
Today, letโs bring a quality of well being to ourselves and everyone around us.
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Questions that I actually meant. Spoken from the heart not from my knowledge of routine. Fuck the standart “Hi, how are you?”. This sentence is colourless and pale like an albino nightingale. There is a by far better question. Ask: “Hi, how are you?” and don’t just ask it. Express it with your heart. Mean it. Suddenly you made trifold rainbows sparkle in the sky.
That is the type of questions I asked.
This led a friendship to become something extraordinary in my life.
I have found that it is almost impossible for me to actively listen to people when there are a lot of distractions around me like loud talking or TVs. I need to be in a quiet place like a cafe in order to listen effectively. It takes practice because I am a bit socially awkward, so I think about what I want to say before I say it to make sure that it sounds okay. I also grew up in a family that talks over each other and no one actually listens. There is a difference between hearing someone and listening to them. I used to tell my students that you have two ears and one mouth. You should listen twice as much as you talk.
I genuinely let people talk and listen and tell me about their day
To be honest , I am more interested in other people and their interests than mines .
Most of my relationships now revolve around active listening. Which is ironic because a year ago I was probably the world’s worse listener, always only half paying attention so I could jump in and talk about me. Now I realise that its actually more fulfilling to really be present and be there for someone else. To show up and allow them to be who they really are. When I’m present and listening, it allows my relationships to become that much deeper because it creates the space for people to really express how they are feeling, what they are going through, who they are.
Going to a new church in the morning. Will practice there then come back and answer
Complete honesty: I have to really concentrate on focusing on the other person. I’m always thinking about how what we’re talking about affects me or experiences I have had that relate to what we’re talking about. It’s not that I’m not interested in what the person is saying, it’s that sometimes I’m more interested in what I wish I was saying. I find the best approach for me is to think of myself as giving them a gift — listening to someone and letting them talk is a gift. I tell myself that they will feel very good about their interaction with me because they were seen and heard. I try to give people what I want for myself — being seen and heard is one of the most important things in my relationships with other people.