The Power of Inspired Action

By Amy Leo

“You need to draw a line in the sand. You can’t enable her anymore. If she leaves this facility, you and your husband have to agree not to let your daughter in the house. This is one of the rules of our program.”

This advice was given to Debra, the mother of nineteen year old Emily.* Emily had been struggling with a heroine addiction for the past two years and this was her third attempt at recovery. Her third enrollment in a rehabilitation program.

It had been a tumultuous couple of years for the family…and that is putting it mildly. The family was a frequent subject of gossip in their small town. Debra and Emily were stuck in a cycle of what seemed liked constant conflict. Emily would spend nights away from home without saying where she was, she would steal from Debra and other family members in order to get enough money to pay for her habit, and the overall family dynamic was hallmarked by stress, worry, fear, guilt, anger, and uncertainty.

There was even a time when Emily, in the throes of immense sadness, rage, and confusion, came to the dinner table and put a knife to her own throat beckoning to her mother that she was “just going to end it all, right here, right now.”


Here is where the power of intention creates a real impact.

After dropping Emily off at this third rehabilitation facility, Debra felt unsettled by the advice of the program facilitators. A funny sense of unease came over her. She felt more confused than ever and for the first time in what felt like years, gave herself the time to really process everything that had happened over the years. This was her little girl after all. A previous star student and star athlete…turned heroine addict and now fighting for her life.

As soon as she got home, Debra ran upstairs to her bedroom. She flung her purse to the ground and got down on her knees by her bedside.

Please, I don’t know what to do anymore. I am open to guidance. I just want Emily to be safe. I just want us to feel like a family again. I give up. I open myself up to deeper guidance. I can see now that what we really need is a miracle. I just don’t know what to do. My deepest desire is just for Emily to stop using heroin.

Debra allowed herself to sit there in solitude and to feel the emotions that she had held back for so long. She then slipped into a gap of pure consciousness. Said another way, she reached a place of heightened awareness and calm. She then let go of her prayers…her intentions…her desires…and continued on with her life that day. She briskly walked downstairs to start making dinner for her family.

What is odd is from that moment, things began to get better. And they seemed to be getting better even when Debra was doing less to try to control the situation. Debra and Emily were in regular contact and Emily seemed to be doing well in her current environment.

That was however, until Emily showed up at the family’s door on a Sunday evening at 8pm. This was in strict violation of the stated rules and conditions of the rehab center. Debra was not to let Emily in the house.

When Emily showed up, Debra, her husband, and their younger daughter were shocked. They were expecting that Emily was getting better and still at the rehab facility located almost 2 hours away.

After an initial outburst of emotion, Debra got quiet. She had this overwhelming feeling of intuition that if she turned her daughter away, she would only go live either on the street or with her drug-dealing and drug-using friends. She knew that this would not, in any way, facilitate Emily’s recovery. (1)

In a moment of inspired guidance, Debra opened the door. It didn’t make sense for her to push her daughter away in her time of need. Debra essentially ignored all the advice she had been given. She put down the label of “enabler” which had been given to her by herself and others in the community. Instead, she followed her own instincts in that moment.

Debra set a boundary that Emily was to sleep downstairs on one couch with her on the other, and made Emily promise that they would return to the recovery center tomorrow.

It was a pivotal moment. That decision to show Emily unconditional love and provide a safe space for her to lay her head during the most confusing and out of control period of her life was exactly what this particular family needed.**

Both Debra and Emily began to have a series of inspired thoughts that guided Emily to where she is now…completely recovered, holding down a job, back in school, and enjoying a healthy relationship with her new boyfriend.

And in case you are wondering…Emily did return to that rehab center the next day, but the dynamic of her relationship with her parents had changed and the dynamic of her relationship to herself and her thinking began to transform. Emily then began to explore both traditional and alternative methods of recovery and participated in those that resonated with her.

Slowly, but surely, Emily made a full recovery.

In closing, the title of this article is a bit misleading because it was Emily that actually saved herself. It was Emily who saw something new and made a life change. However, it was Debra’s conscious intention of being open to guidance and inspiration that lead to a series of inspired actions which created a safe platform from which Emily could explore sobriety.

*This is a true story to which the names have been changed to protect confidentiality.

**The actions highlighted in this article are not to be taken as universal how-to’s or advice on what someone should do if they have a child struggling with an addiction. This story simply highlights the power of how inspired intentions have the ability to show up and guide each of us in different ways that work specifically for our unique life situations.


Amy Leo
Amy Leo is a fellow human being doing the best she can. She is a three principles paradigm coach, singer-songwriter, and travel addict. With a background in social work and mental health education, she is passionate about alleviating human psychological suffering and travels the world sharing a simple, profound, and scientific truth of how our human minds can work for us, instead of against us...particularly when it comes to our relationships. She loves dogs, her Finnish fiancé (she is even learning Finnish to prove it!), and could put Tzatziki sauce on nearly anything.

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Molly Crosby
Molly Crosby

Thank you for this today. Of all days, I am dealing with the same situation and feeling much the way Debra was feeling. This brought peace to my heart. Thank you again for all your inspirations

Susan Turner
Susan Turner

But God….


My daughter has fought addiction for most of her 46 years. Too many rehabs to count. Near death too many times to count. I am an enabler. Since hitting bottom (me) I have experienced the knowledge that yes, I may lose her and had to accept that. But I’ve felt guided to support her in EVERYTHING positive, speaking the truth in those matters and being silent but loving regarding everything else. The change has been consistent. In this last year she has begun caring for herself, stopped substance abuse and is happier and more positive than ever. I think the difference is that I’ve simply taken my hands off and stopped getting in God’s way. She can now hear Him and knows it’s between herself and God.


Thank you so much for sharing this I am too in a similar situation. I have been attending Nar anon and feel like alot of the things are not for me and my unique situation. I am so glad that I came across this! The Universe works in very mysterious ways indeed.


My daughter just overdosed and died on April 20th…

Debs Sutherland
Debs Sutherland

wow…thank you for sharing

Jina Juiliano
Jina Juiliano

Yes, Thank you. Yesterday I had also decided that I was going to help my granddaughter any way I could. Everyone is calling me an enabler too. But for myself, I am a strong supporter of homeless,and hunger charities and I decided yesterday that I would help my granddaughter anyway I could. After all LOVE is a healing force in my story and in Emily and Debra’s story. Many blessings and thx to you.


I so needed to read this tonight. My 25 year old son has struggled with addiction for 7 years and currently with heroin. I have listened to advice against my motherly gut instincts. I did put him out at 17 and the drug dealers took him in. When arrested for pot, I let him sit a few days, learning from criminals how to play the system. I applaude this mom for trusting her instincts for her child. I am so glad it turned out well for them.
My intention is to regain myself,regain my hope, so I can help and hopefully regain my son…the son he was before heroin. It is a scary thing for me to hope but I am trying.



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